Since my earliest years, Christmas had always been my favorite holiday. Although its season’s climate is not my favorite because the winter season is associated with the element of cold weather. I’ve never been a fan of cold weather, maybe that’s why fall and spring are my favorite seasons. Despite its climate, Christmas for me was always happy! The time of year where all family can get together and be of good spirits, even if that good spirit was for a moment. Yes, even the mean-spirited family member smiled for once! My heart, mind, and soul reflected on this holiday as I watched a movie with my family. Ironic as it is, the title of the movie was,”This Christmas!”
The Christmas holiday is defined differently by many as people near and far spread the Good News, and try their best to exhibit happiness, joy, love, and peace. Educating their loved ones young and old of the reason for this season, whether it’s faith-based with the story of celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ, or the gift of giving faith, hope, and love through their time of giving whether it’s clothes, food, or helping hands to those who are in need.
The gift of giving to those in need was well represented in my home by my mom and dad. I remembered as a child, the two of them always clothing, housing and feeding strangers who later became a part of the family. My parents were these kindhearted individuals who always represented the morals spoken of earlier, happiness, joy, love, and peace. Another reason why I feel I embraced and loved the Christmas holiday, because my home felt this way as a kid growing up. When my mom passed away, Christmas was different, dad always made the holiday times fun, yet as time passed the holidays weren’t the same. How could it be, a vital part was missing. Holiday became the time where you were grateful for life and gifts, expectations became seeing that sibling that strayed away when mom passed and life happened, or seeing those aunts, uncles or cousins who moved on or getting to taste that good ole sweet potato pie grandma brought on her visits to your home. Things changed, Christmas became adaptable. Some may look at this as it sounds sad but it wasn’t. Life happened and my siblings and I utilized coping skills to make the most enjoyment during the holidays. We surprise ourselves some years with how we discovered and rediscovered our inner selves and love of this holiday. My mom was no longer with us but her love and legacy lived on in our inner beings. She always taught us the importance of family and love, and because of this we let nothing separate us from her best-Love!
Some call it growth, I call it our memorable moments that help us avoid the traps of not celebrating the holidays, because of our life circumstance. I mean, I sympathize as well as empathize with all because there’s nothing my family and I haven’t experienced, so I can relate to many going through this holiday season without a loved one, news of an illness, loss of employment,a home or just those who aren’t in the holiday spirit. But with faith, family, hope, and love ,you can and will conquered all! I’ve always been an optimist in my family and I’m being honest when I tell you it wasn’t easy but as I look back over our lives it was all well worth it. Where does all of this play a factor in the title, well I’m so glad you asked because I will tell you now. This Christmas is one of great importance for me and my family because four years ago we lost our dual parent, our father.
It was the day after Christmas, December 26,2012. A day in our lives that will never be forgotten but we’ve pressed through with faith and love for one another to get to this point in our lives. The year 2012 was the last Christmas my family and I shared the best of everything! There was so much happiness,joy,love and peace that as I look back on it that day was too good to be true! To be awaken early the next morning with the most horrific phone call I ever had, to hear of its content. The love of all our lives gone, this stagnated my love for and desire to celebrate this holiday! Questions of why the one time all my siblings gathered at once in my home. My heartbroken reality left me as numb as ice on the skin for several years after. But then came restoration in a divine moment where my siblings and I are sitting planning four years later in the Spring of Christmas. This Christmas was held at my younger sibling’s home in our hometown! We had the greatest of moments. Reflected on the love our parents instilled in each one of us, digesting the aroma and flavor of Southern cuisine at its finest-home cooked! This Christmas was all that I’ve ever dreamed of. There was faith, family, food, happiness, joy, love, peace, and the restoration of all lost with more gifts in blessings of our parents lineage. My love for kids has always been a strength for me ,I was surrounded with the love of all my nieces, nephews, great-nieces and nephews! Beauty at its best, I can honestly say this Christmas was the best in our lifetime and I’m so grateful as well as thankful for seasons in life. All is not lost, and life happens as I mentioned earlier, not only for growth, but for love and legacy to have its purpose in one’s life!